Episode 41: Married To Medicine But In Love With A Rolling Stone

Hey Loves,

It’s ok to love your spouse but put yourself first sometimes. When you’re a military spouse, it’s easy to put your goals and dreams on the back burner to support your spouse but there comes a time when you must focus on your goals and dreams. Time waits for no one. If your spouse is for you, they will understand your need to achieve and still support your whole heartedly. Remember, it’s easy to give up but it’s more rewards to push through.

With Love,

I am following my dreams and he is supporting me too.

The Letter

Hey Love,

I stumbled across your podcast two weeks ago via ig reels and clicked on your profile. I immediate hit the follow button after reading your bio, Iphannie: Be Gentle Podcast: A Reality Check The Loving Way. I knew you had to be a real one because everyone knows when you check someone, there’s a right and a wrong way to do it.

Anyway, I am also a military spouse whose husband just deployed. Its been about two months and we have an almost three year old who was born at the peek of covid. Our son has never been away from his father until now. It has been extremely tough on me physically and mentally but I know its even tougher on our don.

There are nights where he wants to talk to his father but he can’t because of where he is stationed. Some of my family told me I should move back home since he will be gone for some time but I just started my career and don’t want to give up everything I have worked so hard for yet again because of the lifestyle we chose. I am 35 years old and am a pediatrician. It took some time to complete my doctorate and I finally matched with my dream hospital but it can be very hard because my husband is away and I don’t have any other support with our son. I recently found out I am pregnant again but I’m not sure how I feel about it.

Mentally, I feel like I am barely surviving with one child and to add another child to our family knowing I won’t have his physical support has been taxing on my mind and body. He’s only been gone for 3 months but it already feels like way too long for me. Our son has become extremely needy since his father has left which I completely understand however, I feel like I am drowning in my inability to remain level headed while my husband is gone. This is his first deployment and I’m not sure how I’m going to make it through it without him while being pregnant with a almost three year old.

I am still madly in love with my husband and we have decided to make the best of this deployment by writing our dear John letters but It is still so hard being that we have been together for 15 years and this is the first time, apart from basic and art, that we have been apart for this long.

How did you cope with your husband’s absence? How did you explain to your son that daddy was going to be home soon or daddy can’t come to the phone right now because I have officially run out of things to say for a 2 year to understand. How do I keep the relationship hot while he’s far away.

Signed,

Married To Medicine But In Love With A Rolling Stone

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