Friends are an essential part of life. They can help you get through some of your toughest times or they can cause you some of the worst pain. Growing up, people would naturally gravitate towards me. Whether at school or church, I was surrounded by people. But only a select few would be able to get close enough to me for me to consider them a friend. Those people were only considered a friend after showing me how selfless they truly were.
Although some believe that friends are people who are there for you to have fun with, they also serve a purpose. A friend with a purpose is elite. As we get older, we must realize that we are all in different walks of life and have friends who serve different purposes in our life. Some friends are there solely to ensure you have a good time. Some friends are there to help you when you are in a bind while other friends are there for you to help when they are going through a tough time.
Then there are the elite friends. These friends are the ones who are your all in one friends. They laugh with you, cry with you, celebrate your accomplishments, are your listening ear and are always there to hold your hand through life whether that be the good, the bad, and the ugly.
This episode features my elite friends. We have been through so much together since high school and are now well into our late 20s with children. We have been through motherhood, marriages, failed relationships as well as becoming widowed and starting all over from ground zero all while holding one another’s hand to ensure we make it to the other side gracefully.
With Love,
An Elite Friend
How To Build An Elite Sisterhood
Find someone who is loyal to you and you are loyal to
Not everyone is around you because they want to genuinely support you. Be aware of why people are around you and what they want from you.
Be a listening ear
You have one mouth and two ears for a reason. Listen more than you speak. Sometimes your sister just wants someone who they can rant and rave to so they can alleviate their stress.
Be understanding of other peoples circumstances
Not everyone can and will handle certain situations or circumstances like you will. It is ultimately their choice. An elite friend still stand by their friend and help them work through their struggles.
Do not be a YES man
Sometimes our friends are stupid. There I said it! Sometimes our friends are stupid so we need to be the one to tell them that isn’t a good idea and ultimately steer them away form their stupidity.
Find someone who balances you
It’s good to have someone balance you our not only in romantic relationships but platonic ones as well. If we all think a like, how will we grow?
Remember you need a village so surround yourself with good people
Building an elite sisterhood will not only benefit you in your day to day life but in the long run as well. Sometimes we need someone to lean on, hence why having a good village is important.
Space is needed
It’s ok to take time away from your friends. Distance can make the heart grow fonder but too much distance can make the heart wonder so be intentional and communicative about the space you take.
Leave the judgement at the door
The world is so judgmental; your sister doesn't need another judge jury and executioner. She just needs a friend with a pure heart, open mind, and a firm hug.
Be mindful of your sister’s struggles
Your struggles are your struggles and her struggles are her struggles. You may never experience each others struggles but you must understand that each and every one of us have a struggle we must face. Be understanding of one another.
Check on your strong friends
Even if you have that one friend that is always so strong for your group of friends, understand they too will face their own struggles and need to be cared for as they have care for you.
As a strong friend, allow your circle to love and support you through your struggles as you have done for them. It will allow you to unload a bit and help them see you as human.
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“A true friend sees you through your worst and your best days, holding your hand through it all to ensure you make it to the other side stronger than ever.”
