Episode 32: Emotionally Immature

Hey loves,

Maturity doesn’t always with age or experience. Maturity comes will understanding, processing, want and need. One must understand that is going on, process the information, want to care and implement the knowledge into their everyday life and need to push forward until they reach maturity. Without these 4 key elements, maturity does not exist. But what about emotional maturity?

I was raised in a household with both my parents until I was about 14. My parents got a divorce and a started to split the time between parents. It wasn’t until my parents separated that I started to see how immature one of my parents were. We know divorce can stir up very radical feelings between two parties especially if the divorce was not as amicable as can be however, I never expected to experience such emotional immaturity from someone who had always preached to be a leader of our family. Nonetheless, I was able to grow emotionally despite the emotionally immature parent I experienced and so can you.

With Love,

In Tuned With My Emotions

Tips + Tricks

Here are 7 signs your parent/parents are emotionally immature.

1. There needs came before yours and they center life experiences around them and how they felt

   1. They make you feel as though they were doing things that were in the best interest of you however, it has somehow always benefitted them.

   2. They tell you, you had it good.

      1. They compare their trauma to your trauma and minimize your feelings.

2. Their behaviors were run by their emotions.

   1. They were easily extremely overwhelmed and made impulsive emotional choices in that moment

      1. Their emotions range from extremely happy to extremely depressed.

3. When you express how you feel, they become defensive or deflect.

   1. They say things like, I should have never had kids or I wasn’t meant to be a parent.

4. How you feel in invalidated.

   1. They say things like, “it’s not a big deal” or “you’ll get over it”.

5. They’re always right and struggle to accept different opinions.

   1. They say things like,” it’s my way or the high way”.

6. They have a black and white overly simplistic view of the world.

7. They never got to know you as a unique, individual human being and instead saw you as a way to fulfill their own sense of self worth.

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“Maturity and age do not equate.”

— Iphannie B Gentle